What does bullying mean to you?
What is lunch time like at your School? Who do you sit with, what do you do, and what do you talk about?
What’s it like to ride the school bus? Tell me about it.
Have you ever been scared to go to school because you were afraid of being bullied? What have you done during those times?
Now that we are talking about bullying, what can I do to help?
What do you usually do when you see bullying going on?
Would you be willing to tell someone if you had been bullied? Why? Why not?
What are some good qualities about yourself? Let’s talk about why it’s so important to feel good about yourself.
- Focus on your child. Be supportive, listen and gather information about the incident. Try doing an activity while talking such as walking, baking, or riding bikes.
- Never tell your child to ignore bullying. What your child may “hear” is that you are going to ignore it. If your child were able to simply ignore it, he or she likely would not have told you about it. Often, trying to ignore bullying allows the situation to become more serious.
- Contact your child’s teacher or principal to report bullying and to find out about the school’s bullying prevention plan. Gibe specific details and then ask for the next steps from this school. Follow up.
- Keep your emotions in check. Give factual information about your child’s experience of being bullied, including who, what, when, where and how
- Help your child become more resilient. Talk to your child about being friends with certain people and knowing which friendship or she can count on. Support positive relationships by encouraging them to hang out with kids that make then feel good about themselves.
- Ask your child questions, maintain an open dialogue
- Keep computer in a common room
- Talk about your expectations regarding acceptable online phone behavior before they receive the privilege. Behavior online should be the same as what you would do in person or in front of someone you respect.
- Make agreements and set boundaries about accepted use and behavior for online/phone communication. Often youth don’t tell parents because they fear losing technology privileges.
- Help child think through how the information they put online reflect on them.
- Inform youth about legal limits and future consequences of harmful posting online or by phone
- Ask you child to teach you about programs and technologies you don’t understand or of which you don’t have familiarity.